Tuesday, September 23, 2014

New book in the making

I have begun a third book, tentatively titled: Self-Parenting: Creating a safe and nurturing life. Here is a snippet ...


Why You Should Read This Book

In my 20’s I remember asking my mother why, when I visited my parents’ home, their house was full of happy, safe, familiar feelings. It was as if the very molecules within the atmosphere of their home were full of nurturing and support. In comparison, the molecules in my flat seemed cold, empty, and uncaring. I wanted to change this. I wanted to learn what it was that made such a difference in the two abodes.

I went back to my flat and added a few pot plants. It made no difference. I wanted to infuse my flat with emotional warmth. I wanted it to look homely. I added ornaments. I added books. I added music. Nothing seemed to make a difference.

I’m 44 this year. Now I get it. It’s not the material things per se that make a difference. Sure, to have your prized and treasured possessions around you is a wonderful mirror to remind you what you love and value. But the molecules within the atmosphere are made of love. Love for others and love for self.

We can’t control other people - they may leave us through relationship breakdown or death. Sometimes other people are less available to us, due to time pressures and their own emotional needs.

We can fill our lives with molecules of self-love. We can care for ourselves and create a degree of safety so that we flourish instead of wilt and stagnate. We can do this by becoming our own nurturing parent.


This book explores how you can do that.

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